Building Self Confidence and Self Respect For a Successful Life by Jeff Gignac

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Building Self Confidence and Self Respect For a Successful Life
by Jeff Gignac

Building Self Confidence and Self Respect For a Successful Life

Confidence and self-respect are the foundational qualities that build a successful life. Without confidence and a positive self-value our children are wide open to the negative influences that run so rapid in our society.

It’s every parents worst nightmare that there children end up addicted to drugs, homeless or even worse, end up dead because they got caught up with the wrong crowed.

This is the reason that self esteem and self-respect should be built from the ground up as a child. There will always be difficult times, everyone falls but with confidence and self respect as foundational qualities there is good chance that a full recovery can be made.

As a certified hypnotist and a Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, I recommend that everyone teach their children the value of feeling good for no reason at all. What I mean here is that parents can teach their children to feel confident with no outside reason, using only their imagination.

I know this may sound a little odd at first because as parents we want kids to feel confident and have self respect as a result of doing something good. I believe that teaching children to be proud of accomplishments when observable behavior is noticed is a great strategy. The point I am making here is that it also good to teach children that they can feel confident; they can still feel a high level of self respect even if certain outside circumstances do not call for these feelings.

Let me give you an example. Many cults, drug dealers and manipulators attempt to break down young people by belittling or mocking them. Teens are especially vulnerable to this kind of attack from people they think are cool. If they fall prey to these kinds of attacks then they also may be manipulated into doing things that they would not normally do.

Young people who only learn to feel like they have self respect and confidence as a result of something they did are easy prey for charismatic manipulators.
If you think about it, you know that I am right. How many times will parents set up activities for there children to succeed just so they can reinforce a particular behavior. Drug dealers and criminals can do the same thing only in reverse.

This is why it is so important to teach our children to be able muster those feelings of self-confidence and self-respect for no reason at all. If there are times when someone is trying to undermine there self-respect and self-confidence, your children will be able to look inside of themselves to readily access powerful emotions. Thus making it very difficult for unsavory characters to manipulate them into doing something out of seeking approval.

The Plan:

When you notice your child is having doubts about his or hers self worth have them use there imagination to remember a time when they felt valuable and confident.

Ask them, “How were you standing when you felt this way” Then ask them to show you. Have them demonstrate to you every aspect of their physiology. This includes how they were breathing, what they were doing, how they were smiling.

This activity will soon start to change the way they feel. Ask them if they can remember another time that they felt confident and a valuable member of the household. Then help them to live out the feeling. Continue to repeat this process until you notice that they are feeling confident with there self-respect restored.

Now, tell them that anytime that anyone tries to make them feel bad that they can look inside and find these good feelings and begin to feel them fully and completely as they do right now.

If you do this consistently with your children they will soon learn that they can control their own emotions, they will learn that they alone are responsible for the way they feel. This skill will make them almost impossible for them to be manipulated in to a bad situation.

As second side effect, your children will habitually make better decisions because they will feel better more often. Think about it! It’s very difficult to make good decisions when one is feeling bad. However when you are feeling good, you have a high degree of self-respect, you will typically make better decisions.

We all know that the more good decisions we make the more success we will enjoy in our life. This is every parents dream for their children.

A note of Caution:

When implementing this strategy with children make sure that they draw upon memories of when they were doing good things, when they were behaving in a way that is consistent with the values you want your children to uphold during there life.

Also be sure that if they are feeling bad because they did something bad, that they fully and consciously acknowledge what they did was wrong before using this strategy.

Feeling bad for the right reasons is useful but it is only useful to the extent that the lesson is learned. After you determine that your child understands, then by all means restore their self-confidence and self respect with this strategy.

The Reward:

If you do this consistently with your children you double their chances of becoming successful in life because they will be able to combat all attempts on their self worth. You will also protect them against emotional disorders like depression and general anxiety disorders because they will have learned how to change their emotional state regardless of the circumstances that befall them.

Best of all you will know that your children will be happy.

Thank you for your time and hope this information serves you and your family well.

Sincerely with peace and joy,
Jeff Gignac @ http://www.thehelpwell.com http://www.jeffgignac.com

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Posted on: February 8,2007

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