7 ways to Build a Closer Bond between You and Your Child by Angeline Foong Wai Leng

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7 ways to Build a Closer Bond between You and Your Child
by Angeline Foong Wai Leng

How many of you feel that your child is not close to you? Refuse to share his thoughts with you? Or doesn't even want to sit down and have a chat with you?

Seriously, if your answer to the above questions is Yes, Yes and Yes! There are 7 questions you really need to ask yourself. As parents, its our responsibility to give our child all the love and care they deserve, if you have not been giving the basic to your child, please do not expect much from them.

Your children need your presence more than your presents. ~Jesse Jackson

1- How much time do you give your child? Your child feel loved when you spend time with him doing things he love. Playing, reading, singing, watching cartoons or simply just acting silly at times. Everyday, set aside a 'child-bonding time'.

During this time, please, put your work, your worries and all other committments aside. Be fully involved. Through actions, your child will definitely draw closer to you.

If there is a day you cannot spend time with your child, give him a call, not to inform him, but to chat with him just for a few minutes to show that you are sorry and you miss him.

If ever you made a promise to your child and you could not fulfill it, please make it up to him. This is very important. You are teaching your child integrity by fulfilling your promise in another way. For example, you promised to be present in his school sports day and you could not make it. Make it up to him, by bringing him to a place he enjoy or have dinner with him in a special restaurant.

2- How often do you talk to your child? Communicate is the word. Not one-way talking where you talk and your child listen. But rather let your child speak and you listen. Give opinions, feelings and ideas and not rebuke and lecture.

I have always emphasized, understanding your child is the essence to an enjoyable parenting life. But how can you understand your child if he wasn't given a chance to let you come into his world and share his world with you?

Communication is not just a talk and listen process, it includes body language too. When was the last time you hug your child, give him a pat on the back or a kiss on the cheek? Actions speaks louder than words. And never forget to tell him,

Author's Biography:

Angeline Foong Wai Leng is a mother of 2 boys. She grew up in a family of violence and financial difficulty. During her teenage years, she helped out in child care centre,where she learn several useful tactics in handling children of different ages. Angeline’s passion is to help parents realize that understanding their child makes parenting frustration free...and more at http://allaboutyourchild.com

Posted on: November 16,2007

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Website: http://allaboutyourchild.com