How to Get Rid of the "Overwhelm" Monster by Ana Tampanna If you wear many hats, manage a family and/or a business, it is easy to feel overwhelmed on a regular basis. Too much to do, not enough time, money, or help to do it. Do you find yourself procrastinating, proceeding with resistance or remaining paralyzed then dropping the project altogether? The idea of writing an ezine overwhelmed me for 6 months. It wasn't until I applied a spiritual approach to dealing with this feeling that my resistance dissolved. In it's place I experienced excitement tha ... Learning From All Our Relationships by Margaret Paul, Ph.D. All of our issues come up in our relationships - our fears of domination, rejection, abandonment, of being wrong, embarrassed, or humiliated. Relationships bring up our deepest fears of loss of self and loss of other, which triggers our deep learned protections - anger, judgment, withdrawal, resistance, and compliance. While our dysfunctional patterns emerge most clearly in primary relationships with a partner, these patterns are certainly activated in friendships, work relationships, and relat ... Memories Don't Fade Like Hair Does: Memoir Writing Help for You, Our Elders, to Tell Your Story by Roxanne McDonald ~~~Old age, to the unlearned, is winter; to the learned, it's harvest time. ~ Yiddish saying~~~ You can tell your life story by biography, which is a whole book that starts from the start and ends at (or near) the end. But if you don't want to take on such a huge task, you can tell your story in snippets and snatches, through memoir writing. Memoir writing consists of--as the word, from the Latin memoria, indicates--individual memories. The convenience this affords us is this: we can start at an ... The Legacy of Sexual Abuse by Margaret Paul, Ph.D. During the many years I've been counseling people, I’ve worked with many people who were sexually abused as children. Some of them remember it all their lives, while others repressed it and remember it only as adults. In either case, the resulting harm exists on many levels. THE PHYSICAL LEVEL If a child was violently abused, the physical pain may have been so intense as to cause the person to not be able to function in a normal way sexually as an adult. The fear of penetration or of oral sex m ... The Poison of Resentment by Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Actress Susan Saint James, in a TV interview after the terrible plane crash that claimed the life of her 14 year old son Teddy, and injured her husband, NBC Sports Chairman Dick Ebersol, and her son Charles, made the following brilliant statement: “Resentment is like taking poison and then expecting the other person to die.” Even in the face of her great loss, she is not angry, blaming, or resentful. Resentment and blame are poisons to the soul. They are far more harmful to you than to anyone e ... Language Training - A key to Global Communication by Madhur Bajaj Language Training is integral to success in the International setting. It is increasingly recognized as a key element in assignment success. The ability to communicate in the local language of International colleagues and clients facilitates relationship building and fosters an atmosphere of credibility and trust. Knowledge of the local language gives international assignees a more thorough understanding of the host country's culture. Attaining a high level of linguistic proficiency can mean t ... Take Care of Yourself and Be Your Own Expert by David Roddis We give up paying attention to the practical needs of our body, mind and spirit because we think it’s all too difficult and complicated. And in some ways it is, because that’s the way it’s presented to us. After all, who are we to second-guess all those scientists and experts with all those letters after their names? Every day there’s a new report, a new article, a new fad; something else we have to factor in that’s bad for us, good for us, or on the undecided list. So we give up, go on the same ... Set Strong Boundaries and Live in Confidence by David Roddis Spoken or unspoken, we all have physical boundaries and emotional boundaries. Have you ever made known a preference for working in your office alone or asking someone not to touch you? By every action we take, in every life situation, we're either demonstrating strong boundaries or weak ones; and weak ones always create the potential for stress, conflict and drama. There are two types of boundaries: immediate and lasting. Immediate boundaries are those you set in real time, as a direct response ... How to Attract the Love of Your Life by Terry Hernon MacDonald Have you heard about the technique Olympic athletes use to help them win gold medals? In addition to conventional practice, they do some critical mental work as well. They close their eyes and see themselves making the winning basket, being first across the finish line, etc. They feel the weight of the medal as it's draped over their necks. They hear the roar of the crowd. What does this have to do with you attracting a good, fun, and faithful man or woman to spend the rest of your life with? ... Unhook from the Perpetual Progress Grid by Deirdre McEachern I have been a member of a group called the Women in Business Connection (WIBC for short) in Cambridge, MA for about four years. We get together for lunch meetings once a month. Last week at our December event several of the women commented to me how much they liked my newsletter. It is always nice to hear complimentary feedback but one woman went even farther - she said it was like getting a Zen moment in her email. (Thanks Cibeline!) Her comment got me thinking. That is exactly what I want to ... Relationship Quiz - Copasetic, Caution, or Conundrum? by Slade Hartwell This quiz is based on key areas of communication and intimacy in relationships. The easiest way to take the quiz is to print it, so that you can circle your responses and add up the results. Use the scale below to gauge the health of your relationship. The questions are designed to assess the likelihood of your relationship being a success in the long term. Take the results seriously, but realize that no quiz can take into account everything that may important to you. Please do not feel complet ... Why Not Live Vicariously Through Yourself? by Paul Shearstone Reality programming appears to be all the rage today. Survivor, Sex & the City, Desperate Housewives and the Donald’s You’re Fired; they’re on all the major networks. It seems we can’t get enough of it. Why do you think that is? …………………………………….. Reality programming serves as a medium for many people to live vicariously through others. Who among us has not watched an episode of Survivor and said, “I think I could win that game!” Moreover, how many women or interior designers have giggled at what ... Finding Appin Knowledge Solutions by Rajat Khare I call entrepreneurship “The art of taking risk”. That is how I started it. Being from Computer Science department, IIT Delhi people always expected me to go for a M.S. in U.S.A. But things turned down to be different as I was always looking for a different track. I wanted to be a top entrepreneur. I began with the mind of a computer scientist and thought of lots of ideas and imagination that they will be converted into a million dollar business soon. But entrepreneurship was quite different th ... Surviving Grief at Christmas by RobinRenee Bridges I remember thinking that the impossible had happened. Daddy was supposed to live forever. Oh yes, rationally I knew that wasn’t possible, but my mind just couldn’t imagine a world without daddy in it. Standing there in the emergency room cubicle, I looked down at the pale, cool body that had been my daddy...a lump of flesh that I had loved so dearly. Just an hour earlier he had asked me if I thought he might be having a heart attack. “I don’t think so,” I responded. “Atrial fib is not a lethal r ... Learn About The Traditional Chinese Sailing Ships by Jakob Jelling The traditional sailing ships are one of the main prosperity Chinese symbols. Actually, these objects are the most known symbols after dragons in the Chinese culture. Just like dragons, they can be seen in most Chinese buildings and houses as traditional objects as well as prosperity amulets. They not only symbolize prosperity but also are very auspicious for goal achievements and happiness in general, and can help us attracting such benefits into our homes. One of the most usual ways these sail ... Choose The Right Incense Burner by Jakob Jelling Incense and incense burners come in many different varieties. While incenses vary in essences and aromas, incense burners vary in materials and shapes. Not only the incense you choose will have an effect on your environment, but the incense burner you use will do so as well. The incense you choose might affect your mood and the chi flow around it, while the incense burner might directly affect the feng shui of the space where it is as well as directly affect those who keep it. Incense burners go ... Attract Good Fortune With Lucky Cats by Jakob Jelling Lucky cats are traditional Asian items which represent good fortune and protection. Those who have lucky cats in their homes or working spaces will have their protection as well as the wealth benefits they attract. You can place lucky cats at any environment where you wish wealth to come. Most of the times, there are two lucky cats represented together, one of them with its left paw up and the other with the right one up. The lucky cat raising its left paw is the one which specifically attracts ... If Only . . . by Rick Beneteau She was about 30 years old. A pretty woman to me. She had several lines of deep scars on her face that I assumed were the result of severe injuries caused by a car accident. Or worse, an attack. This disturbed me. I noticed her from my balcony within days of moving in to my highrise, walking 2 little white dogs around the block. She was always alone, always with a look of deep sadness on her face. I must have ran into her at least twenty times during my year-and-a- quarter of living here, on t ... In My Life by Rick Beneteau In My Life I have savored the sweetness of Victory. In My Life I have been Vanquished and know too well the bitter taste of Defeat. ________________ In My Life I have been so overwhelmed with Joy that I thought I could not contain it. In My Life I have been so overwrought with Sorrow that I believed I could not bear another moment of it. ________________ In My Life I have Believed so strongly that no person or circumstance could impair my conviction. In My Life I have Doubted so deeply that a s ... A Bird's Eye View of THE ENCHANTED SELF and what it means to YOU! by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein The Rebbe Nachman of Breslow often said, “Always remember-Joy is not merely incidental to your spiritual quest. It is vital.” As the years have gone by and I’ve been in the practice of psychology over 20 years, I have become more and more convinced that he was so right, that joy is not an option. When we take away joy and we take away a sense of well-being, a sense that we are thriving, we allow ourselves or seem to find ourselves in circumstances that seem to drain, tire and weaken us. We are n ... A Country Boy’s View on Fashion by Gene Simmons I still can’t understand it. After all these years, I can’t make a lick of sense out of what folks consider to be in or out of fashion – appropriate or inappropriate attire or appearance. What was “in” last year, might be “out” this year – or it might be in but you need to change what you wear with it. What was OK for spring and summer probably won’t work well for fall and winter - weather considerations aside. And what is in was likely already in somewhere around 20 or so years ago but then it ... The Story of Big Jim by Rick Beneteau The power went out. Again! I looked out my second story office window and knew exactly why. I could hear the sounds throughout the morning. This crew of 4 men and 3 bucket trucks stringing power lines along the new poles they had been planting in the front and back yards of my neighborhood the past few weeks. Often during this time, I would be working on my laptop on the front porch and watched this professional teamwork in total synchronicity, moving from pole to pole in planned sequence. Fir ... The Legacy You Leave by Rick Beneteau All You will leave behind for the world to remember is Your Legacy, so ask yourself: Will you have earned the respect of your peers and the admiration of your critics? Will you have acted humbly at the peak of success and graceful in the face of defeat? Will you have kept your childlike wonder and reveled in the beauty of the world and the small miracles that each day brought? Will you be remembered for how often you laughed and brought smiles to the hearts of others? Will small children an ... Rhythm of Life: "Spiritual Tides" by Romy Macias The Ebb and Flow of Life Are you overwhelmed with so many activities you don't know where to start? Are you always in a hurry but seem to get nowhere? Do you find yourself in a state of perpetual over-drive? Do you constantly feel tired? Perhaps it's time to take inventory of your life. But how? Here is an excerpt from an incredibly insightful book written in the early 1900's by an author who has very wise words about this modern day problem. Apparently this problem is not exclusive to our time ... The Bulging Right Pocket by Rick Beneteau It was one of the worst periods of time in my life. Recently separated, I had just lost custody of my 2 daughters and was forced to vacate my newly-renovated home (with 3 days notice) that contained the well-equipped recording studio I had spent 2 years building prior to selling my drycleaning business (in order to build a long-desired music production company). Divorce - Canadian style! Two years before, I discovered that a *friend*, a music contact I had worked with and even spent time with ... | ||||||
|
Resources | Submit an Article | Suggest a Category | Terms & Conditions Add URL | Feedback | Free Content Copyright © KD & R Designs. All rights reserved. 2005 |
