Healing Food Addiction by Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Hannah was distressed that, with all the inner work she had done on herself, she still found herself binge eating. “There are times when I just can’t stop eating. I feel awful after, but at the time I just want another cookie and another until they are all gone. Or I’ll intend to take a few bites of ice cream out of the carton and find myself unable to stop until the whole carton is gone. I just don’t get why I’m still doing this! And it seems worse since I married Roger, even though I really l ... Who Are The Underminers? by Margaret Paul, Ph.D. How many of you had the experience growing up of being told in various ways to limit yourselves from being all you can be? The movie “The Incredibles” is a wonderful metaphor for this. In this movie, the superheroes – the people with extraordinary powers – are restricted from using their powers. When I was growing up, I was not supported in being all I could be. “Boys don’t like smart girls,” “People will be jealous of you.” I learned to hide good grades and talents, for fear others would be thr ... A Rush Home to Rapture by Keith Varnum Riding a rush, being juiced, flying high—this is the feeling we strive for every day. What’s the huge attraction to this heightened state? Many medical authorities would have us believe that the desire for a constant high is an addiction—and an unhealthy and unrealistic one at that. A Built-in Homing Device My life experience reveals the opposite. Such a drive is not only healthy, but also very realistic. Our attraction to highs is a natural, built-in homing device implanted in us by the Univ ... This Magic Moment by Marina Smiley Remember when you began dating your wife or girlfriend? Those moments when the touch of her hair, the wisp of a kiss or the electricity you felt when holding hands? Do you still feel the same way or do you feel that you are missing some of those feelings? Of course you still love your mate, probably more than ever before, but unfortunately most of the excitement has, somehow, disappeared. You have fallen into the same day, in, day out, doldrums. Time has passed and you are into a routine, and b ... To Thine Own Self by Wayne and Tamara Direct Answers - Column for the week of December 6, 2004 Someone gave me a bit of advice, and I'm doing my best to get my head wrapped around it, trying to understand and comprehend and translate it into my own life. What does it mean to follow your own heart? Lisa Lisa, Dante's Divine Comedy opens with the author saying, Midway in the journey of our life, I found myself in a dark wood, for the straightforward path had been lost. That is how many people feel. It is as if they are searching for a ... How To Stay Positive In spite of The Negativity Around You by Josh Hinds I'm often asked how it is that I stay so positive. Now allow me to clear up some misconceptions you might have based on that last statement. I am not one of those folks that walk around with what is commonly referred to as a career politician's smile painted across my face. Although I do believe whole-heartedly in the power that a simple smile can impart on another. No, you see, just like everyone else, no matter how over all a positive person I am, or attempt to view things I still have my down ... 10 Steps to Happily Ever After by Slade Hartwell Do you know what all happy and healthy marriages have in common? In every one of them you will find two people committed to making each other happy. You will find a man who cherishes his wife and puts her needs above his own, and you will find a wife who respects and trusts her man. We live in very selfish times. Pop-psychology messages are everywhere in the media encouraging us to love ourselves, do right by ourselves, and generally please ourselves first. If you really want a happy marriage, d ... Learn To Trust That Gut-Feeling by Scott Flint It just might save your life Think of the many times throughout your life when you experienced a strange feeling that turned out to be an early warning of danger. Use your early-warning radar. Did you take heed of that warning and avoid the impending danger, or did you ignore your built-in early warning radar and walk right into harm's-way? The funny feeling in the pit of your stomach or the feeling of the hairs on the back of your neck standing on end are ways of your body telling you that some ... Are You Stuck? Consider Changing Your Focus! by Gene Simmons If you sometimes feel as though you’re caught in life’s quicksand, you have a lot of company. We work, we struggle, we try to do everything we possibly can to move on to a higher level of well-being but it seems like the harder we work, the more stuck we get. If you’re approaching a Category 5 frustration level, you might give this a try… Switch your focus from that really nice – but frustrated – person in the mirror to one or more of the other folks who inhabit this good earth. I realize that ... The Disciplines of Success by Maria Palma Success, in the dictionary, is defined as, “The achievement of something desired, planned, or attempted.” So why is success in our society defined by the balance in your bank account, the car you drive, or how big your house is? You are successful if you are a lawyer, doctor, or movie actor with a six figure income. You should be able to be called a “success” when you have been able to do anything and everything you have wanted to do in your life. Shouldn’t success be defined as being able to do ... Speeding Myths and Facts by Magda Santos Speed Reading is one of those subjects that is spun to sound like a tonic that will solve all your educational ills and grow hair on your bald head for 2 easy payments of $19.99 each. At times it sounds like a medicine show. Some write about how it’s a hoax. Others claim it’s the best thing since sliced bread. Well, in my experience, of teaching adults and children for 24 years, it’s a little bit of both. It’s a hoax if you expect to learn to speed read, to comprehend and to keep the new skill ... The Art of Forgiveness by Dr. Tim Sams Forgiveness is a critical element in becoming self actualized and fully loving. Forgiving is the process by which you let go of feeling victimized or having wronged others. It allows you to climb out of the dark well of anger, bitterness, or guilt into which you can easily fall. In a busy life, you are frequently confronted with opportunities to forgive others as well as yourself. With others, you cope with mild frustrations like the delivery person who shows up late, or with more severe transg ... Passion or Purpose? by Dr. Tim Sams I hate moderation. I hate doing things moderately. I hate having to be controlled, mature, and disciplined. I don't want to moderate how much I eat or drink. I don't want to be moderate with sex, or playing, or vacations. I don't want to moderate what I say for fear it will offend. I don't want to do what's good for me. I DO want to have a second piece of pie because it tastes good. Sometimes, I do want to have hot sweaty sex at night and again in the morning because it tastes good. I want to r ... My Journey by Dr. Tim Sams I believe it's important for you to develop a mission statement for your life; one that is unique and articulates your values, goals, dreams; how you want to live. Your mission statement is a living, breathing testimony of the life you are committed to living. It is also a way to pull yourself back from the darkness when you are feeling lost in the minutiae of misery. I read my mission statement every morning and it grounds me and reminds me what is important and how I want to be that day. I h ... The Art of Learning by Dr. Tim Sams My temples begin to throb and I can feel the panic rising in my throat, as I sit in the classroom. The minutes tick by and I still don't know what he's talking about. I look around the class and everyone else seems calm. It's just me. I rifle through my scribbled notes, race through sections of his handout, and burn holes through the diagram in the book. No help; I'm getting more lost and desperate. Heart pounding, my thoughts go NASCAR. I don't need this crap. It's Saturday and I should be wit ... The Art of Selfishness by Dr. Tim Sams Mature selfishness is the cornerstone of effectively living with passion and purpose. A commitment to self- interest is practical and efficient since you are better able to meet your needs than hope that someone else does. It is the basis for the laws of natural selection and survival of the fittest. Unfortunately, society has given mature selfishness a bad name. Parents are well intended when they teach their children that selfishness is bad. Infants are primitively selfish and need to learn c ... The ‘Stand-Out’ Principle by Paul Shearstone Think for a moment about all the people you know that Stand Out from their peers. Michael Jordan, Wayne Gretzky and Tiger Woods may come to mind. Singers like Madonna, Paul McCartney, Pavarotti, Ray Charles, Ella Fitzgerald. Actors like Tom Cruise, Betty Davis, Merrill Streep: so many names – so many standouts. The question then becomes, How is it or what is it about people like these, that make them stand out? A simple answer might be, Jordan or Gretszky scored more points and personally won mo ... The Magic of Hearing by Angie Dixon I’m working on a coach training certification, and one of the “proficiencies” I’m expected to have mastered is “engages in provocative conversations.” Now, that really got me thinking. What’s a provocative conversation? Well, the word “provocative” means that the conversation provokes something—hopefully a reaction from the client which helps take them to another level. The ideal response to the provocation is for the client to realize something they didn’t know or find a solution they didn’t ha ... Five Minutes Before the Miracle by Angie Dixon Even though this article was next on my idea list, and I write them in order whether I want to or not, I REALLY didn’t want to write this article. Why not? Because it’s about not giving up five minutes before the miracle—and I’m in the process of doing just that. I won’t go into a lot of details, but there’s something I really want, that I thought was within my grasp. I found out a few hours ago that after being promised, I’m not going to get it. I’ve wanted it a long time, I’ve spent a lot of t ... Do You Have Your Best Life? by Angie Dixon For many years I had a good life. My illness was reasonably under control, I had a nice relationship with my husband, I did work I didn’t hate. It was, as I said, a good life. But there’s a saying that the good is the enemy of the best. I finally realized this one day, and began making my best life. I changed doctors and got on new medication that completely relieved my symptoms, rather than just making them easier to deal with. I started talking more with my husband and listening to what he had ... Is The Apprentice Bad For Your Health? by Angie Dixon If you know who I mean when I say Kwame, Bill and Troy, you’re probably a fan of The Apprentice. I admit I’m not a fan myself; I don’t watch much television and that particular show didn’t grab my interest enough to be “appointment” watching. I have, however, followed its popularity with interest, for various reasons. The main reason I’m so interested in The Apprentice is that it gives me insight. As a life and business coach, I try to see into my clients’ heads and see where they’re having pro ... Your Support Network by Angie Dixon Quick. Who’s in your support network? Huh? What’s a support network? Do I have a support network? Honey, who’s in my support network? Your support network is that group of people you can go to with problems, questions, to vent, to cry on their shoulders. Friends, for starters. Who are your close friends? Are they available to you when you need them? If they’re not, why aren’t you looking for different close friends? And family. Many people, like me, are fortunate to be close to a sibling and ... Letting Go of Clutter In Your Office by Angie Dixon Some people would say I’m the last person in the world to be writing about clearing out clutter; I seem to accumulate so much of it. But I also get rid of it, when it reaches the point of bothering me. That’s the first thing about clearing out clutter. Everyone has a threshold at which the clutter starts to bother them. My husband’s threshold is much lower than mine, and when he starts clearing out, I jump in and help him. But in my office, things go to my threshold and no further—usually. Reco ... The Magic of Thinking Small by Mike Litman Hey! Many of you might disagree and I'm prepared for that. Many 'guru's' might say Mike, you're wrong. and I'm prepared for that. But what I'm about to share with you has been one of my biggest secrets to my success. This secret has been so powerful to me that before I captured it, I was a 'success casualty'. A big one. Some of you know my story and some of you don't, but ever since I was 19 years old I dreamed of doing what I'm doing right now. But for my first 7 years, I was TOTALLY lost. Mayb ... Your Growing Edge by Angie Dixon You’ve probably heard the term “leading edge” used to refer to technology or products that are in front of the curve, that are really advanced. You may have even heard the term “bleeding edge” in this context. I want to talk to you about your personal “leading edge,” your growing edge. Your growing edge is that area of your life where there’s still a lot of room for improvement but you’re pushing ahead and stretching the margins of that area every day. For some this is productivity in business, ... | ||||||
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