What's The Truth Behind Your Finances? by Jay Ball Between 15 - 20% of people in our country (UK) own there own businesses. This statistic is on the rise thanks to the incredible invention of the Internet. The staggering truth is that of these only 5% are genuinely financially free! You may well see lots of expensive cars driving on our roads and big houses inhabited by the seemingly wealthy, but these houses and cars are not yet paid for. Never in our history has it been so easy to lend money. Banks and building societies are falling over back ... The Victims of Fame by Advice Diva We all have the capacity to fall for the allures of fame and fortune. Elevated from the innocent hopes of the “American Dream” stands the illusion of immortality which accompanies the lofty aspirations for money, power and fame. Unfortunately, fame can play a devastating role in relationships. At first, the American sucker feels the beginning euphoric effects stemming from a little bit of notoriety or large cash profits. It acts like a drug seeping deep into the veins and covering the heart and ... Say "YES" to Life! by Marie Magdala Roker Lately, all we've been hearing is to say, NO to so many things. Say no to carbs, saturated fat, Vioxx, etc. The list goes on and on. I do understand saying NO to unreasonable demands on your life, but saying YES brings so much more to your life. Wouldn't that make life less stressful? We are approaching a new year, why not start it succesfully. It's time to make a commitment to start saying YES to life. Say YES to Self Care! Let's start taking better care of ourselves. Just recently we heard th ... 10 Ways to Keep Your Expectations From Making You Crazy This Christmas by Pamela Cole Harris Christmas is a wonderful time! Everyone is full of good cheer, the milk of human kindness and 20 pounds of candy. All gifts are given with love, are exactly the right size, are exactly the right color, or exactly the right thing for exactly the price you could afford. Right? Well, if YOUR Christmas seems to fall short every year, here are some ways to keep your sanity and enjoy the unexpected joys that the season brings. 1. News Flash! You are not perfect! Nor is your family! Give up the myth ... What Does it Take to Make Life Better? by Neil Millar What does it take for you to pay attention? You’ve probably heard this said, or said it yourself sometime, “I just realised how precious life is.” Maybe you heard it when a relative died or maybe you said it after an accident or some other emotional event, but did you stop to consider the grander meaning to what you say… What if every experience in your life is sent to you so you can understand who you are and what your life is all about? Just for a moment, consider the possibilities within th ... The Stories We Tell Ourselves by Rabbi Michael Ozair The Hasidic master, Rabbi Shlomo Carlebach taught that on Passover night we are bringing our entire life stories to the Seder table to be freed. What exactly does this mean? To begin with, we are by nature, storytellers. Whether we are aware of it or not, we live in a world of stories. Stories that we tell our family, friends, coworkers, and clients. Stories we share over the phone, e-mail, in our journals and the stories that are constantly playing themselves out in our heads. Stories about wh ... MISTAKES by R J Farey Don’t worry about making mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes. Why should you be different. The person who never made a mistake, never made anything. Mistakes can be costly. They can also be educational. Look upon your mistakes as an asset. Life is a learning process. Learn from your mistakes. Profit from them and you will not only make more money, you will also become a better person. You must face the fact that from time to time make the odd mistake. As long as they are not life threatening, pick ... How to Get Motivated and Have Industrial Strength Self-Motivation by Peter Murphy It is not your fault if popular self-help courses have never worked for you over the long term. How to get motivated is not adequately dealt with. Why? Because generally speaking there are problems with the material you have read and listened to in these courses: To appeal to a wider audience the self-help experts often leave out the more complex and the more powerful concepts and techniques - the best ones for getting motivated! Instead you get a burst of short term inspiration that cannot ... Fight, Flight, or Loving Action by Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Fight or flight - our automatic response to danger. When fear is present, adrenaline pours into our system to prepare us to fight or flee - from the tiger, the bear, the lava from the volcano…. Fight or flight - today we automatically respond this way to the present dangers, the deep fears that come up in relationships: rejection and engulfment - fears of loss of other and loss of self. Often, when we feel rejected and fear the loss of the other, we fight for love not to go away by defending, e ... Should I Give Up Me To Not Lose You? by Margaret Paul, Ph.D. How far can you afford to bend your values to preserve your relationship? How far can you go in giving yourself up to avoid losing your partner? How much of yourself can you afford to sacrifice to not lose someone you love? How do we find the balance between maintaining our integrity and bending our values? Most relationships require us to bend to a certain extent, but how much can we bend without a sense of loss of self? There is an inherent paradox in these questions: A truly loving relations ... A Global Empathy Deficit- 2 Lessons by Patsi Krakoff, Psy. D. ...We've got a budget deficit that's important, we've got a trade deficit that's critical, but what I worry most is our empathy deficit.” – Interview in O Magazine with Barack Obama. Perhaps this is not only a US national concern but a global crisis: people are dividing into camps and fighting one another with no mention of sitting down to dialogue. We, as global human beings living on a shrinking planet, have to stop the insanity, start talking, and stop the fighting. The fighting is not only ... Healing The Abandonment Wounds by Margaret Paul, Ph.D. I have counseled individuals, couples, families and business partners for the past 35 years and authored eight published books. Every individual I’ve worked with has had some abandonment wound to heal, and most relationship problems stem from abandonment wounds. It is not possible to grow up in our society without some abandonment wounds. The following are some of the ways it can occur: Being torn away from mother at birth and put into a nursery. Being left to cry in a crib or playpen. Being gi ... How Can I Get My Partner To Change? by Margaret Paul, Ph.D. How much energy do you spend trying to get what you want from your partner? Think about it for a moment - how much of your thinking time is spent on what to say to your partner to get him or her to be the way you want him or her to be? Many of us spend a lot of time thinking about how to get what we want from our partner - how to get our partner to open up, be more caring, see us, love us, pay attention to us, spend time with us, have sex with us, and so on. We spend at lot of energy trying to g ... How to Gain a Good Self-Esteem - the Easy Way by Carna Zacharias-Miller Need more self-esteem? - I thought so. Just about all of us would like to see some degree of improvement in the way we perceive ourselves. If only there was a magic pill that would make us feel bold, smart, rich, beautiful, and cute all at the same time. Yet, this priceless treasure called self-esteem seems to be elusive and volatile. To make matters worse, everybody else seems to have it in abundance – so why can’t I just grab a big junk of it and hold on to it, at least until I have secured ... Ten Tips for a "Real" Holiday Season by Toni Raiten-D'Antonio Holidays and the start of a new year inevitably make us think about how we can improve ourselves, and have the life we want in the future. We make resolutions - I must lose weight, I will save more money - and then lose our way. That's because we aren't matching our resolutions with who we are inside. We're more likely to succeed if we work on discovering our inner, Real selves, appreciate who we already are, and then take a chance on custom-made changes, not one-size-fit all resolutions. Here a ... 7 Ways to Defang Difficult People by Tom Russell Difficult people are on the hunt for a quarrel. It’s not personal, usually. It’s just that you happen to be the most convenient target. Difficult people are insecure. They want YOU think and live like THEY think and live. Misery indeed loves company. They feel better if you are tense and unhappy. What can you do to instantly neutralize their negativity? You cannot stop them from being difficult and demanding. Heaven help you if you try! But you can control your own reactions through the amazin ... The Best Way to Pick Up a Girl by Paul Kyriazi You see her across the room. Ah, so attractive. But nobody to introduce her to you. 'Ah, I'll do a James Bond on her,' you think. Now what was Bond's first words to Pussy Galore? 'I must be dreaming.' No, that won't work. How about singing 'Underneath the Mango Tree' to her as Bond did to Honey Rider in 'Dr. No'. Ah? No! Well, what's left? You'll just have to go up and talk to her, if it's a situation where you won't see her again. But it's always safe to assume that she has a boyfriend that can ... Different New-Year's Resolution - Pass-It-Forward by Nisandeh Neta Every 12 months, as the New-Year rolls around, we all brag about our New-Year's Resolutions. With inflated chests and with all the authority we can muster, we announce to any and every available ear, that we're going to lose weight, stop drinking and smoking so much, as well as spend more time with our family, in addition to investing more time down at the gym. Mostly our vision extends no further than our own noses. To add insult to injury, we usually don't follow through on our Me Orientated ... Belief, Designed For Life! by Seamus Dolly Liam says to Joe; “where is your God now, when life can be made in a laboratory”? Joe says to Liam; “it couldn’t have happened, but for the presence of God”. It was a short debate involving two non-scientific people, but wasn’t it interesting? While Liam set out to demolish Joe’s faith, he was left with a simple retort that quietened him. In this case, the non-believer lost because he had nothing substantial to believe in. And the believer, far from a theologian, won the debate because he had. W ... A Bellyful of Mindfulness by Maya Talisman Frost Taco Bell, a huge Mexican fast-food franchise, has a new ad campaign focusing on the slogan, Get full. The commercials show people ecstatically announcing that they are full--thanks, of course, to the huge value meals now available at Taco Bell. We know that feeling full isn't simply a matter of building a bigger, better burrito. There's a whole lotta emptiness going on, and it's not always filled by what we put into our bellies. The search for connection, for meaning, for love-- these are lon ... The Magic Ratio of Positive and Negative Moments by Patsi Krakoff According to the Nobel Prize-winning scientist Daniel Kahneman, each day we experience approximately 20,000 moments. A moment is defined as a few seconds in which our brain records an experience. The quality of our days is determined by how our brains recognize and categorize our moments—either as positive, negative, or just neutral. Rarely do we remember neutral moments. There is no question that the memories of our lives are recorded in terms of positive and negative experiences. Now scientis ... Five Principals for Prosperity by Michael Levy Many years ago, forty to be exact, I started my own business at the tender age of nineteen. The street markets in and around Manchester England was my happy hunting ground. Every day was an adventure and despite the weather and difficulties of getting a stall on the street market, life was always fun and enjoyable. There was always some comical incident, even when I had to stand in the pouring rain, with no customers in sight. And if there was no amusing event to focus on I created one and made ... Love's All About Chemistry by Niz People who have been swept off their feet know the feeling. Love makes us all feel funny. That sense of giddy disorientation, unsinkable euphoria and complete obsession with a new love can be so overpowering, that it's hard to imagine it's all about emotion. Now scientists are confirming there indeed may be a lot more going on in a body that's in love than simple, happy thoughts. In fact, a spate of research has shown what kind of chemical and neurological activities occur at different stages of ... The Doomsday Device ... The Physical Brain In Action by Edward B. Toupin, Ph.D. Our physical brains quickly and easily handle mundane sequences of operations, or processes without question. It repeats processes like a machine: A»B»C»...»Z». Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary defines the word process to mean a series of actions, operations, or motions involved in the accomplishment of an end. Heartbeat, breathing, and digestion are processes that occur without a single thought about what comes next. But, in many cases, our movement has become so consistent, that life itself become ... The American Dream – At What Cost? by Geela When people are asked, “How many of you are content and happy with what you have?” the reply of an overwhelming majority of people is “Not me.” And when they are asked what do they want most out of life, the typical reply is “I want to be happy,” as if happy is some kind of a place, like Disneyland or Happy Land. But happiness is not a destination. It’s a process. In fact, happiness is not even so much a sentiment (contrary to popular culture reinforced by the media) but more of a state of being ... | ||||||
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